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by Michael Kabel
The Quinceañera is an important date for you and really your entire family. The fiesta to celebrate this milestone event might be a simple get together or it could be a lavish bash in which all your friends and extended family attend.
As you plan your Quince celebration, you'll probably notice the many, many details that require your attention. You might even begin to feel overwhelmed by all the decisions and deadlines that crave your approval and energy. Unfortunately, it's really easy to get bogged down in all the preparations, so that you're constantly playing "catch up" in getting everything ready.
Sharing Means You Share the Hard Work
Holding your Quinceanera celebration in conjunction with a sister, friend, or cousin means you'll have a partner to help sort through the often-confusing details and choices that surround planning your ultimate quince anos celebration. When you pool your resources, you have twice as much money and time to go around. You'll also have twice as much "manpower." Both your friends and families will help out in the execution of each plan or design.
Your "co-quince" can work with you on each facet of planning the celebration (the dresses, decorations, selecting the court, et cetera) or the two of you can split up the tasks according to your tastes and preferences. When it's time to put up the decorations, you'll be able to move twice as fast.
Sharing Also Means You Share The Decisions
The biggest potential (notice we say only potential) drawback to sharing your Quinceañera with a friend or close relative is that you'll probably have to make compromises. At some point, you and your co-quince will disagree. It could be over a little thing or it could be a major decision.
The secret to finding compromises is to find a third solution you can both agree about. You might want to appoint a special "third party" to act as a tiebreaker, if things get really bogged down. Agreeing to someone who can negotiate a truce and sticking to the decision will show your family how mature you've become, too.
Splitting The Costs
The most awkward part of sharing a party with someone is often figuring out exactly who pays for what. There is any number of ways to resolve this dilemma, but the important thing is to figure it out early in the planning. Take the time to sit down with your co-quince and determine a payment plan, then stick to it no matter what. Money probably destroys more friendships than anything else in the world. You don't want your Quinceañera spoiled over it, either.
If you need to, find an adult who'll agree to act as "bursar" for your fiesta, controlling the money you both contribute to the event. This should be someone both your families can trust and rely on - maybe a family elder, or even someone at your church or school. Once that's settled, the two of you can begin preparing for the incredible landmark you've agreed to share with one another.
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